Modern Romance

Modern Romance

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The comedian teams up with a New York University sociologist to explore the nature of modern relationships, evaluating how technology is shaping contemporary relationships and considering the differences between courtships of the past and present.
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ISBN: 9780698179967
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Additional Contributors: Klinenberg, Eric
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A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices.

A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices.

A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices.

A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices.

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BostonPL_AnnaD Dec 16, 2017

This was a fascinating read about the history and current practices of dating and relationships. I admit, it did start to get depressing about the middle of the book, thinking, ugh, nothing will work, everyone will cheat. But I really appreciated the Conclusion, where Aziz carefully pulls out all the positive aspects, and what we should be doing to snag that special someone. Because, between meeting people at a bar, online dating, and other ways, there are just too many options, and we really do need to pick the best of each option. Aziz carefully explains it at the end in a great way. Plus, I loved his sense of humor, which helped the medicine go down*... lol.

*No, not real medicine. This was a great read! Actually, I think most of the world needs to read this from teens to adults!

Dec 08, 2017

Love Aziz! This book finally convinced me to try dating apps. If you haven't watched his show Master of None, check it out!

Oct 24, 2017

Author & narrator Aziz Ansari digs a little deeper to figure out what drives relationship behaviors. From committed, monogamous couples to playful, roving singles, he covers about every type of person/couple & the issues they face when pursing a love interest. He begins by portraying the typical dating fashion & needs of the men & women of the 1940s & 50s. Moving forward to present day, a completely different picture is painted on what men & women need & want in a relationship. Even the methods of how we pursue our search for a potential mate is COMPLETELY differnt. Ansari explores the many tools of technology society uses to assist in their quest for love & their pros/cons in the eventually relationship. He explores the difference in relationships in different cultures by visiting 3 different countries outside of the US: Japan, Brazil, & France.

I may have set myself up to give this book a lower rating than what I might have rated it had I had an idea of what this book was really about. I chose this book solely for the author, Aziz Ansari, thinking it was more about him than about the topic of love in different cultures & in the past & present. Had I read the brief narrative regarding what the book was about, I may not have chosen to pick this one up. However, enough of Ansari's personality came out in the writing & in his narration that I can say I'm glad I gave the rest of the book a chance past Chapter 1. It was pretty fascinating to dissect the effects of modern technology as it is being used in finding a potential girlfriend/boyfriend. I also found the comparisons between typical relationships in the different countries quite interesting. I would recommend reading this book if you enjoy Aziz's type of personality & comedy or if you find the topic of love & relationships of interest.

Age recommendation: 18 & up (references to masterbation, infidelity, open relationships, homo/hetero-sexual intercourse, lots of profanity used very casually)

On a scale of 1-10 stars, I give it 6.

Jul 27, 2017

An entertaining audiobook with supplemental anecdotes that brings the content to life. Ansari doesn't tell us what's wrong with modern romance, or why one way or time of doing things is superior to another. Instead, he examines how the times have changed and how difficult it is to determine the best course of action. While this book doesn't tell you how to navigate your love life, it does provide information that might have you reevaluate how you go about romance. The audiobook was about 6 hours long, but it went by fast and I enjoyed every moment of it.

romance_nerd Jul 04, 2017

A hilarious audiobook to listen to. The content was interesting but listening to Aziz Ansari read this was truly the best part.

May 31, 2017

I wouldn't say this was an amazing book in regards to content, but in regards to audiobooks I thought it was one of the best. Aziz's commentary throughout the book was both funny and relatable. I liked how he acknowledged that he was reading the book, I think that made it less cut and dry compared to others books. The content seemed like common sense, but I found the topics on monogamy pretty interesting. It's a book worth checking out.

AL_MARYA Feb 10, 2017

Comedian Aziz Ansari teams up with sociologist Eric Klinenberg to explore today’s complex dating scene. Their observations are both interesting and amusing.

Jan 11, 2017

I have to admit, when I pick up a book written by a "celebrity" I immediately and skeptically assume there's a ghostwriter. But although Aziz Ansari's co-author and research partner Eric Klinenberg is an NYU sociologist, I'm convinced Ansari actually did much of this very entertaining writing. The two spent two years conducting focus groups, researching and interviewing about individuals' and couples' use of modern and cutting-edge technology with respect to finding, maintaining and ending romantic relationships, and the results are at once unsurprising, intriguing and somewhat worrying. There are a number of laugh-out-loud passages -- recommended!

What happens when a comedian and a sociologist team up to figure out what the deal is with today's dating scene? This hilarious, compelling, interesting, fun book. Ansari interviews people young & old from all over the world put a finger on how we find our soulmates.

The Audiobook, which Ansari reads himself, is especially good!

Maggie Mae

VaughanPLKasey Nov 09, 2016

Modern Romance is a book about the contemporary dating scene, where more and more people are meeting online, and even when we do meet in person, we do most of our communicating through the internet or our phones, by writing instead on talking. This is a major topic of Ansari’s stand-up, also, and so I thought I had a pretty good idea of what I was in for.

But the book is not just an extension or a translation of Ansari’s stand-up material. It is actually the culmination of a multi-year sociological study that Ansari undertook with Eric Klinenberg, examining modern dating behaviours, comparing them to the way dating worked for older generations, and taking in quantitative and qualitative data, all coming together into some very real perspectives and advice on navigating the world of modern romance.

Ansari takes you with him through the research process and findings, speaking always in layperson terms, and injecting his personal brand of humour into the discussions in natural and relatable ways.

It’s a great book, an engaging and enjoyable read, and one that just might make you learn something!

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AL_MARYA Feb 10, 2017

But we want more than love. We want a lifelong wingman/wingwoman who completes us and can handle the truth, to mix metaphors from three different Tom Cruise movies.

Today, if you own a smartphone, you’re carrying a 24-7 singles bar in your pocket.

Apr 12, 2016

"Like most fedora wearers, he had a lot of inexplicable confidence."

Apr 12, 2016

"I don't think we thought, 'Well, there are another twelve doors or another seventeen doors or another four hundred and thirty-three doors' . . . We saw a door we wanted, and so we took it."

Aug 03, 2015

The most popular kind of establishment in the relationship replacement industry is the hostess club, which is basically the latest variation of a long-standing Japanese tradition where men go to a nice bar-type atmosphere and pay women to provide intimate personal service in a romantic but not explicitly sexual way. The women are like modern-day geishas: They light the men's cigarettes, serve them drinks, and listen attentively to their conversation, doing more or less what an ideal Japanese wife or girlfriend would do. Lots of men stop by these clubs after work, either alone or in groups... Women also go to host clubs, which provide the same service: outgoing men who converse and have drinks with them. Again, this does not lead to sex; it's purely for companionship. These women are basically paying to hang out with nonherbivore men for a while.



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Oct 24, 2017

Sexual Content: references to masterbation, infidelity, open relationships, homo/hetero-sexual intercourse

Oct 24, 2017

Coarse Language: lots of profanity used very casually


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