Following Ezra

Following Ezra

What One Father Learned About Gumby, Otters, Autism, and Love From His Extraordinary Son

Book - 2011
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"A heartwarming and hopeful memoir of a father's experience raising his autistic son. When his son Ezra was diagnosed with autism, Tom Fields-Meyer knew little about parenting and even less about neurological disorders. This intimate memoir chronicles his remarkable experiences of learning and growth from the time Ezra was diagnosed at age three to his bar mitzvah at thirteen. In that time, Ezra evolves from a remote, peculiar toddler to an extraordinary young man, not "cured," but connected-in his own unique way-to the world around him"-- Provided by publisher.
"When Tom Fields-Meyer's son Ezra was three and showing early signs of autism, a therapist suggested that the father needed to grieve. "For what?" he asked. The answer: "For the child he didn't turn out to be." That moment helped strengthen the author's resolve to do just the opposite: to love the child Ezra was, a quirky boy with a fascinating and complex mind. Full of tender moments and unexpected humor, Following Ezra is the story of a father and son on a ten-year journey from Ezra's diagnosis to the dawn of his adolescence. It celebrates his evolution from a remote toddler to an extraordinary young man connected in his own remarkable ways to the world around him"-- Provided by publisher.
Publisher: New York : New American Library, c2011
ISBN: 9780451234636
Characteristics: xii, 241 p. ; 21 cm


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IndyPL_SteveB Nov 30, 2018

This is the story of a Jewish family in California, whose middle son is autistic. Tom Fields-Meyer is a journalist who has written for the *New York Times*, the *Wall Street Journal*, and *People*. His wife Shawn is a rabbi. The book is an enthusiastic celebration of the love they have for their son. While Ezra has many differences and obsessions that have caused worry for his parents, he also has many abilities and has shown a growing ability to cope and to gain self-knowledge as he has become a teenager.

The unspoken theme of the book is that each of our children has individual talents and deficits and that our greatest job as parents is to love each child for who they are, not grieve for who they are not. It is sometimes easier for us to see the ways in which we want our children to “improve” than it is to encourage them in the abilities they already have.

*Finding Ezra* is an excellent book for anyone who wants to understand a little bit about autism. It’s an even better book to remind us what parenting is really about.

tuesdayswithlori May 29, 2013

I read this book a while ago and was so moved that I bought a copy for myself and for my in-laws and for my parents. I have an autistic son who is so much like this author's boy that I really wept at his bar mitzvah scene. What hope! I also really connected with the author since I have done the same thing with my son, followed him and really watched. It is a beautiful thing. I think this book really helped my parents and in-laws to better understand their grandson. It is a great book.

Tenessa Oct 17, 2012

I found this book to be an heart felt story of a father's love for his son. It was well written and had many tender stories as well as a rare glimpse into the mind of a special child that sees the world so differently from most of us. I felt touched to read a story with so much love and humanity in it. It offers hope to all children with special needs that they can get along in the world alright, if there are people to guide them along the way.


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